I don't blame anyone for deciding to leave Catholicism because they were confronted with the choice of "your faith or your friends / your self." (I left because I chose my friends, and eventually, myself as well.) If my smaller-town church is an example, I got the feeling a lot of Catholics were very happy to have Benedict and aren't nearly as happy with Francis reminding them of the inconvenient parts of their faith. And I haven't really ever directly asked what the priest in my relatives thinks because I don't want the certainty of knowing, even if I have some idea of what the answer would be.

The speck-plank problem is definitely a prevalent one, especially in those places that want to hold themselves apart from the world and say they're not really like that, that they're better or holier than that.

Solidarity, and a hope that within our lifetimes that all religions learn how to do their unconditional love correctly so nobody has to be afraid or to leave because they're not welcome.